כשהמרה משקר...Dear mirror
Most of us have a real issue looking at ourselves. In the mirror, or in photographs..Looking at ourselves makes most of us get kind'a frozen. How comes that we can appreciate easily other peoples images, but when it comes to us, it's just nearly impossible ?
It is all a question of self-esteem and self-judgement. Cause the truth is that what we see in the mirror does not reflects the reality. The truth is that what we see depends on what we focus on and what we expect to see. Because what we see depends 100% on our internal computer, which is the brain. Our visual system is not just a "capture" tool. To see, we need the image seen by our eyes to be interpreted by the brain, and what we will see, is that interpretation. So as sweet and loving most of us are when looking at someone else's image, as judgemental we are when looking at ourselves. Our self-judgement interferes deeply with what we are going to see. We tend to search for every detail we dislike, instead of looking at the full image. If we believe we are fat, big chances are that we will search for the proofs of it when we look in the mirror. We will focus our attention on our hips, double chin, wide arms...instead of looking at the total image. So somehow, seeing ourselves in an objective way is a complicated task. If you grew up, hearing from your mother that you are too fat, too skinny, that your hair is ugly, that your eyes are too close....this is what you are going to believe and search for when you look at yourself.
Photography is an amazing tool, as it allows us to work on self-esteem in multiple ways. First of all, it allow to look at ourselves through the eyes of someone else, with a "social" and emotional face, in opposition to what you see in the mirror. In the mirror, what you see is you, looking at yourself. It's just plastic. When in fact, people don't look at you this way. Seeing your "social response" body expression, creates a connection between the way you look and what you express. This is particularly important as people around us respond to our body expression. We, Homo Sapiens, have a built-in scanner that analyses and respond to body expression. You reflect what you believe you are, and people respond to this believe. You create your own reality. Being conscious of what we reflect not only develops our knowledge about ourselves, but also change our reality, as it changes the respond the world gives you.
So next time you'll look in the mirror, seduce it. Imagine the person you look at, is someone you love, and see what this does to you.